Criticism of Mormonism/Online documents/For my Wife and Children (Letter to my Wife)

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Response to "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife")

Summary: For my Wife and Children" (a.k.a. "Letter to my Wife")' is an online document which is critical of Latter-day Saint truth claims. The author states, "I began to see how the Church profits by misrepresenting history in order to gain converts and retain members". [1]

About this work

The online document "For my Wife and Children" (also known as "Letter to My Wife") was written by an anonymous author who posts on the ex-Mormon subreddit. It is addressed to the author's wife. According to the author,

I remain grateful for the good things the Church brought me, the great people I’ve grown to know and the ways in which all this has helped me grow. My decision to leave the Church was the product of years of research, study, and prayer. This letter became a comprehensive explanation for my decision, and now you have read it and thought deeply about what it reveals about the Church, I hope that you will join me by my side. [2]

The text of the 2016 version of the document is generally respectful in tone and approaches the issues in a mature manner, while avoiding the sarcasm and immaturity in tone that plague the "Letter to a CES Director" (which addresses a number of the same issues). [3]

The author provides a good deal of sourced material (much of it from Church sources). The author does, however, tend to rely on other documents (including the "CES Letter") to formulate his own claims, thereby relying on a limited subset of data and sources in those other documents without being aware of a number of errors and missing data. A number of the author's source links and typographical errors in the author's document have been silently corrected in this response and are not considered in FairMormon's evaluation of this material.

After carefully evaluating FairMormon's response to this work, the author responded:

Every single line in their response to my letter is a lie. I can't read it anymore. My head hurts. [4]

The following links respond to individual claims contained in the following document:

  • Anonymous, For my Wife and Children (Letter to my Wife) (2016)
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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" by Anonymous

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 1 - The First Vision

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 2 - The Translation (Book of Mormon)

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 3 - The Witnesses

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 4 - The Kinderhook Plates

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 5- The Word of Wisdom

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 6- The Endowment

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 7 - Polygamy

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 8 - Blacks and the Church

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 9 - Blood Atonement

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 10 - Prophesies

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 11 - DNA

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 12 - Reformed Egyptian

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 13 - Anachronisms

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 14 - The Jaredites

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 15 - Source Material (Book of Mormon)

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 16 - Expert Views (Book of Mormon)

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 17 - Facsimile #1

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 18 - Facsimile #2

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 19 - Facsimile #3

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 20 - The Rosetta Stone

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 21 - The Translation (Book of Abraham)

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 22 - Expert Views (Book of Abraham)

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 23 - Tithing

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 24 - Church Spending

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 25 - Scientific Evidence

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Response to claims made in "For my Wife and Children" ("Letter to my Wife"): Chapter 26 - Spiritual Confirmation

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Notes

  1. Anonymous, For my Wife and Children (Letter to my Wife), (2016), p. 144
  2. Anonymous, "For my Wife and Children" (2016) p. 145.
  3. Comments in ex-Mormon forums and inquiries received by FairMormon indicate that this document is gaining popularity, while use of the "CES Letter" is diminishing due to its "tone" issues.
  4. Comment made by "JeffreyArrrHolland2" on the ex-Mormon subreddit, posted on 28 Sept 2017